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Ditching the New Year’s Resolutions

Sunday, December 28th, 2014

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In the past few years I have grown weary of New Year’s resolutions. Perhaps that is because they so often focus on what I lack or what I am not.  No matter what I do or don’t do there will always be someone younger, richer and better looking. Dissatisfaction can make one unhappy, but, that said, I am also mindful of complacency. You know, Newtons’ Law about a body at rest…

So if no resolutions, then what?

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I prefer goals. But the goals I used to set tended to more like a ‘to do’ list to be checked off one by one. My list looked like this:

  1. Submit two historical proposals
  2. Write one blog post a week
  3. Speaking at the National conference
  4. Sign at Book Expo America
  5. Learn to use Instragram (still haven’t managed that one yet)More recently,

I have simplified my goals and in so doing opened up a world of possibilities. This broadening of goals allows a certain amount of room for the unexpected while still keeping me focused.

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Here’s my Goals from 2014:

  • Create
  • Connect
  • Explore

My writing fit well under Create but so did the jewelry I made in a beading class I took and the baby quilt. As for the unexpected, I could not have guessed that my Connect goal would lead from a cup of coffee with a colleague at a conference to organizing a three-day writers retreat. But it did. Explore could include my online course work, but also the unexpected opportunity to mine fossilized seashells.So this year I’m keeping it broad and open again.

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Here’s my 2015 Goals

  • Play
  • Simplify
  • Create

I’m thinking the play goal can include experimentation in my writing as well as exercise and travel. Simplify can mean anything from weeding out that upstairs closet to reducing my sugar intake to limiting my commitments. Create will include my writing, of course. But what else, I wonder? I keep these goals in a picture frame on my desk. I check often to see if I’m including them in my world. And I’m much happier since I broadened my goals.

So… Are you ready to ditch the resolutions?